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Moving Back Home After College

Students graduating from college often have big plans for what they’d like to do next, but it doesn’t always work out the way they planned. Because of the still-depressed economy, more students are moving back home than ever before. Often the surprise of needing to move back home is a lot to handle for both the returning student and the parents, and it can lead to stress and agitation on both sides.

However, with record numbers of students returning home after their college years, more and more grads are learning how to adjust and contribute positively in their family life. When moving back home, there are a few things to keep in mind that, if taken care of in advance, can reduce or eliminate the stress associated with moving back home after college.

Make a Plan For Re-Homing Yourself
It’s easy to forget exactly how much stuff you can accumulate during your four years of college. It’s important to have a plan in place for getting all your belongings back home, whether you lived in the dorms and had to pack everything up at the end of the year or lived in the same off-campus housing the whole time and have mountains of junk to sift through.

It’s your stuff, not your parents’, so it’s up to you to get it back home. Determine how much space the things you’ll be bringing home takes up, and figure out how large a vehicle you’ll need to get everything home in one trip. It might be worth some time to explain to your parents that you might need some storage space outside your childhood bedroom. Better yet, get your own storage space and put anything you don’t use daily in there. Rates are usually quite reasonable, and having your own storage can unit will make moving out on your own that much easier when the time comes.

Get Everything Moved
Often a move to college takes one or two trips in the family car, but much of the stuff a new college student brings is part of a transitional phase from adolescence to adulthood. However, the college years are when a young adult begins to gain independence. College students make lifelong friends, forge new bonds, break off old relationships and go on adventures to form fond memories, many of which involve mementos. It’s important to remember that there is likely to be a lot more stuff to move on the trip back home.

Storing your stuff can certainly become an issue, but moving it is just as important. Unless the trip is very short or carefully planned out well in advance, it’s a good idea (particularly if there’s a lot to move) to call in outside help. While parents often offer to help, taking care of it on your own—meaning hiring professional movers or renting a moving truck—is the adult thing to do.

Transition to the Next Phase
Students from your parents’ generation almost never moved back in with Mom and Dad after graduation—in fact, there was substantial social stigma against moving back home. That said, with one out of five Millennials now returning home after college, the social stigma is wearing very thin already.

Returning home after college and saving to start a new life on your own is common and nothing to be ashamed of, and neither is contributing to household expenses while you live with your parents. Graduation is a time of transition; use this time to build the financial skills you’ll need to live on your own.

8 Ways to Reduce Stress Before You Move

If you’re planning a big move and the thought of it has you cringing with despair, you may simply need to relax. While the phrase “just relax” may seem annoyingly unrealistic to you, those two little words could spare you from much mental and physical anguish before and during your move. Accumulated stress can wreak havoc on your health, so exploring ways to combat it effectively is in your best interest. By learning a few simple strategies for reducing stress, you can transform the act of moving from an unbearably stressful activity to an enjoyable process.

Learn to Breathe Properly
You may be surprised to discover that you haven’t been breathing as well as you could. Breathing correctly can help you to expel much of the tension that has settled in your body. Try this breathing exercise to help you relax: Exhale thoroughly, and then inhale for a few counts. Hold your breath for twice as many counts, and exhale for as many counts as you took to hold your breath. Choose whichever number feels natural to you, whether it’s three counts in, six held and three out or eight counts in, sixteen held, eight counts out. Repeat this a few times or until you feel calm.

Allow Yourself to Be Pampered
Schedule some time to be pampered. Make an appointment to get a massage, or spend an hour or two getting a pedicure and a facial. If money is a concern, pamper yourself by taking a bubble bath or indulging in a sweet treat.

Plan Some Relaxing Activities
Don’t forget to have some fun. In between packing and organizing the details of your move, allow yourself to watch some movies or have lunch with some friends. When you take some time away from your moving tasks, you’ll return to them feeling reinvigorated. If you never lose focus from the task at hand, it can start to feel overwhelming and your stress levels will rise. So go play!

Enjoy Some Playtime
Another way to minimize stress is to play. If you have one, take your dog to a nearby beach or dog park and run free with it. If you have a cat, locate your feline’s favorite toys and play with the kitty for half an hour. Simulate the experience of childhood playtime by going to a neighborhood playground and playing on the swings or merry-go-roundor climb a tree right in your backyard. Being playful will help lower your stress, and the exercise you get in the process will help re-energize you.

Take a Nature Walk
Getting exercise is an essential aspect of minimizing stress. Being outdoors is another way to reduce your stress level. Since planning your move is probably consuming much of your time, try combining the two stress-relieving activities. Find a nearby trail and go on a nature walk. Take the time to stop and smell the proverbial roses, and you’ll find yourself feeling refreshed and ready to tackle the big move.

Organize Your Thoughts and Take Small Steps
Once you have learned a few techniques for diminishing stress, try to make the move as easy as possible. If you plan your move in stages and pack a few boxes each day, you may begin to feel less overwhelmed. Write a list of everything that needs to be done, and resolve to complete one or two items from the list on a daily basis.

Let Technology Help You
One way to stay organized for your move is to keep a detailed record of your plans in an online planner. You might also utilize one of the various apps designed to assist people who are relocating. Such applications can help you to stay focused on your goals and remain on task.

Change Your Perspective
The way you perceive your upcoming move may have much to do with how you handle it. If you regard the move as a stressful event, that is what it will be. Try adjusting your perspective; moving can be an exciting experience, and you may discover a wide range of new opportunities once you have relocated. By learning how to manage your stress, having some fun, staying organized, and altering your perspective, you might discover that moving is not as daunting as you had anticipated.